Each of us are unique individuals who express ourselves in very different ways. There is not a right way to be, but rather there are emotional signals and behaviors that we project to others which tend to communicate louder than the words we speak.
Individual therapy and couples counseling can benefit tremendously by understanding our own emotional style, our own signals, our patterns of behavior, and our individual wants and needs.
Said another way, "How you show up."
In addition, it's important to understand the different systems, relationships, and external influences that have shaped each of us along our personal roadmap of life.
Each of us has developed different relationships with our feelings and emotions and what we think and believe about those emotions.
Said another way, "How you feel about feelings?"
For males, of all ages, experiencing and expressing feelings and emotions can be an uncomfortable experience and often men foreclose on the range of emotions and leave themselves limited due to internal and external influences.
Commonly, men restrict emotions, project anger and/or aggression towards others, or adopt isolating routines. On other occasions, men also tend to mask their discomfort through a "stoic" demeanor or attempt to intellectualize the situation.
Eventually, physical signs and internal discomfort begin to surface and provide additional emotional clues.
Said another way, "The body doesn't lie..."
In a relationship both individuals bring an emotional heritage with them that infiltrates the relationship at some point. Most couples find themselves rehearsing the same perpetual disagreement over and over and falling into common attachment traps until emotions run high and the conversation and behavior eventually goes sideways.
By that point, both partners often find themselves flooded, exhausted, and overwhelmed by the threat of another argument as well as they feel unsafe sharing their feelings.
Escalated arguments, distancing from one-another, and shutting down are common signs that one or both partners are hurting emotionally.
Said another way, "Let's work for understanding..."
Examples of dysfunction in your life from restricting the expression and communication of feelings and emotions may include:
If you find yourself, or someone close to you is experiencing one or several of the examples above for an extended period of time then let's talk.
As a husband, father, business owner, and competitor at heart I understand the challenges that go along with organizing & prioritizing life to get on track, meeting a goal, or crossing a finish line.
I also understand the commitment and sacrifices that are made to balance responsibilities at home, go back to school, train for an event, coach youth sports, travel for work, remain connected with friends/family and prepare for both the physical and mental challenges that lie ahead when the starting gun goes off.
I work with individuals from all backgrounds to develop the mental muscle, that is equally as important, as the physical aspect of training and preparation for the day-to-day life events.
Considering all the roles we experience in our daily routines, the balancing act can become overwhelming. By developing an understanding of what matters to you most and learning how to live your life based on those values - we can work together - to support your efforts living the life you aspire to.
You may be dealing with overwhelming feelings, feel "stuck" in your current role at work, or experience on and off again stress from balancing work, family, school, social circles, family expectations, or training for an event. An injury may have set you back and you are feeling guilty that you cannot workout.
Together we will develop an appropriate plan to support you along your journey.
My role is to be a resource that enables you to fully enjoy the life experience you aim to accomplish and achieve the goals you set for yourself!
I am an approved supervisor in Washington State. To become an approved supervisor, it is required to have an independent license in good standing for at least two years, have 25 supervised hours supervising others, and to have 15 continuing education hours in supervision.
My approach involves a balance of encouragement and support. I lead with an encouraging voice as the process of becoming a professional in the field can be a series of obstacles that involve identifying the unknowns, navigating the mixed emotions, and building confidence through experience. I act as a resource providing relevant and applicable learning opportunities.
I show up curious to understand how I can be of support and scaffolding to enable you to move towards building the knowledge, skills, and abilities within the field. During supervision with me you can expect an ally, humor, compassion, enthusiasm, and brainstorming in how to best care for you and your clients.
I have been primarily trained from a holistic mind-body-spirit perspective. Influenced by values-based (ACT) and person-centered therapy (Rogerian). Since, I have cultivated and developed a practice that includes strength (MI) and emotion based therapies (REBT), cognitive and behavioral (CBT), mind-body connection (Polyvagal/Nervous System), attachment theory, Gottman method, and deeper understandings to support Trauma and ADHD. I find the combination of these different approaches very useful and relevant to clients.
I encourage you to find your voice in therapy and discover how you want to show up with clients.
I supervise both aspiring LMHCAs and licensed LMHCs. In order to become an associate of your desired license, you need an approved supervisor to sign a document from the WA State Department of Health stating that they will be supervising your clinical hours. The following are the requirements for various licenses that I can supervise. Once you obtain your LMHCA, you can begin seeing clients under the supervision of your clinical supervisor. In order to become independently licensed you need to achieve the following:
Once you obtain your LMHCA, you can begin seeing clients under the supervision of your clinical supervisor. In order to become independently licensed you need to achieve the following:
3,000 hours of experience, or 36 months of full time (whichever comes first):
As a young boy I had no clue about my emotions and I let them run free. In hindsight, I have realized that I was out of touch with myself. I thought yelling, becoming frustrated, and throwing stuff was “normal." From those experiences I began a journey of shutting down my emotions, masking them, or only revealing them when I was completely alone. While I constantly tried to control my behavior, on unfortunate occasions, my bubble would burst and friends or family would witness the ugly in me come out.
As an adult, I have realized that I was not unique in terms of being a young boy experiencing big emotions and trying to find ways to ask for help. While I did have big emotions that were exhibited in uncomfortable ways I was not “bad” nor was I “broken.”
Unfortunately, over time I did learn the hard way about how emotions and feelings can impact your life and relationships in unhealthy ways. Which is what led me to seek knowledge, find support, and learn to embrace my emotions and feelings as an adult male in a healthy way.
The road from shutting down my feelings, expressing explosive unhealthy displays of emotions, and keeping my feelings silenced has evolved into a more healthy approach these days. Learning to recognize and manage my emotions as well as building the courage to express my feelings along with sharing them has been a long journey in self-exploration, education, and practice. A lot of practice….
It has also been a giant leap of faith, in terms of building my courage, to stand in front of others and express myself, and allow myself to be vulnerable. Opening up, asking for help, and communicating what I need has fostered deep and meaningful relationships that I could have never imagined, especially with my wife and children.
Experience & Education
Individual Counseling session | $125
Couples Counseling session | $150
I believe therapy should be accessible to everyone. I partner with Open Path Collective. Don't let cost stop you from calling. Please contact me for more information regarding flexible billing.
Please note: If you are interested in using your health benefits please contact me to discuss your provider and what options we can pursue.
I can also provide you with a receipt that you can submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement as an Out of Network provider.
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