MA | LMHC | CCTP
Each of us are unique individuals who express ourselves in very different ways. There is not a right way to be, but rather there are emotional signs and behaviors that we project to others which tend to communicate louder than the words we speak.
Individual therapy and couples counseling can benefit tremendously by understanding our own emotional signals, patterns of behavior, and individual wants and needs. In addition, it's important to understand the different systems, relationships, and external influences that have shaped each of us.
Each of us has developed different relationships with our emotions and what we think and believe about those emotions. Said another way, "How do you feel about feelings?"
For males, of all ages, experiencing and expressing feelings and emotions can be an uncomfortable experience. Commonly, men restrict emotions, project anger and aggression towards others, or adopt isolating routines. On other occasions, men also tend to mask their discomfort through a "stoic" demeanor. Eventually, physical signs and internal discomfort begin to surface and provide additional emotional clues.
In a relationship both individuals bring an emotional heritage with them that infiltrates the relationship at some point. Most couples find themselves rehearsing the same perpetual disagreement over and over until emotions run high and the conversation and behavior eventually goes sideways.
By that point, both partners often find themselves flooded, exhausted, and overwhelmed by the threat of another argument as well as they feel unsafe sharing their feelings. Escalated arguments, distancing from one-another, and shutting down are common signs that one or both partners are hurting emotionally.
Examples of dysfunction in your life from restricting the expression and communication of feelings and emotions may include:
If you find yourself, or someone close to you is experiencing one or several of the examples above for an extended period of time then let's talk.
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Considering all the roles we experience in our daily routines, the balancing act can become overwhelming. By developing an understanding of what matters to you most and learning how to live your life based on those values - we can work together - to support your efforts living the life you aspire to.
You may be dealing with overwhelming feelings, feel "stuck" in your current role at work, or experience on and off again stress from balancing work, family, school, social circles, family expectations, or training for an event. An injury may have set you back and you are feeling guilty that you cannot workout.
Together we will develop an appropriate plan to support you along your journey.
My role is to be a resource that enables you to fully enjoy the life experience you aim to accomplish and achieve the goals you set for yourself!
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I treat each person as a unique individual deserving of respect, understanding, and kindness. As a couple you are both individuals, as well as, partners. I believe in a collaborative holistic approach. We will universally review the full context of what is happening in your life, as well as, the relationship and direct family. As relevant or needed, I also incorporate secondary family members, friends, and other wellness providers.
To do this, I incorporate strength, emotion, and values-based therapeutic models.
These models are made-up of evidence-based treatments which have been found to be highly effective working with individuals and couples.
“I am not what happened to me,
I am what I choose to become.”
As a young boy I had no clue about my emotions and I let them run free. In hindsight, I have realized that I was out of touch with myself. I thought yelling, becoming frustrated, and throwing stuff was “normal." From those experiences I began a journey of shutting down my emotions, masking them, or only revealing them when I was completely alone. While I constantly tried to control my behavior, on unfortunate occasions, my bubble would burst and friends or family would witness the ugly in me come out.
As an adult, I have realized that I was not unique in terms of being a young boy experiencing big emotions and trying to find ways to ask for help. While I did have big emotions that were exhibited in uncomfortable ways I was not “bad” nor was I “broken.”
Unfortunately, over time I did learn the hard way about how emotions and feelings can impact your life and relationships in unhealthy ways. Which is what led me to seek knowledge, find support, and learn to embrace my emotions and feelings as an adult male in a healthy way.
The road from shutting down my feelings, expressing explosive unhealthy displays of emotions, and keeping my feelings silenced has evolved into a more healthy approach these days. Learning to recognize and manage my emotions as well as building the courage to express my feelings along with sharing them has been a long journey in self-exploration, education, and practice. A lot of practice….
It has also been a giant leap of faith, in terms of building my courage, to stand in front of others and express myself, and allow myself to be vulnerable. Opening up, asking for help, and communicating what I need has fostered deep and meaningful relationships that I could have never imagined, especially with my wife and children.
Experience & Education
Coaching session | $50 for 30 minute session
Individual Counseling session | $125
Couples Counseling session | $150
I believe therapy should be accessible to everyone. Don't let cost stop you from calling. Please contact me for more information regarding flexible billing.
Please note: If you are interested in using your health benefits please contact me to discuss your provider and what options we can pursue.
I can also provide you with a receipt that you can submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement as an Out of Network provider.
Cash, check, or credit including Health Savings Accounts. Please contact me if you are interested in using your health benefits.