How often do you wake up and fall into the normal routine that may include, brushing your teeth, maybe a workout, possibly meditate, read, pray, journal, and of course have that first cup of coffee?
- Do you attack the day?
- Do you seize the day?
Or, like many, do you do your best to get up, shower, maybe eat, get the kids to school, and get out the door to get to work on time…
There is an over abundance of advice from friends, across print media, and every form of social media giving advice on “how to”, or “do this”, or “be that.”
What goes missing is that many “don’t know how” or they decide to “try that” or they just believe they need to “be that.” When it’s all said and done they end up in the same place they started. Confused. Bewildered. Unfulfilled.
Those “Top 5” things that make you…Didn’t work!
When I sit with clients, I often find that many have not spent much time investing in themselves. They have not discovered what matters to them personally. What do they stand for? What matters to them?
While many of the key caregivers along our life path meant well, often, they spent a lot of time telling us what to do, how to act, and what we shouldn’t do versus helping us understand who we are, how to be true to ourselves, or how to become that!
It’s important to discover who you are and what matters to you. What are your values?
Only you can decide that. Only you can decide what motivates you to wake up in the morning and attack the day. Only you can decide what lifts you up when you’ve been knocked down. Only you know what can bring yourself back to center when you’ve drifted off course.
Only you know…
A critical step in the process of self-discovery begins with trusting yourself. Don’t expect the answers to unfold all at once. Many times, they come after we’ve experienced the good, the bad, and the indifferent life has to experience as we develop across each of our stages of life.
It’s never to late to start the process and discover what matters to you!
The article wouldn’t be complete without offering 3 things you should consider doing every day.
- Do something that frustrates you. Frustration can humble you, remind you that you’re alive, still developing, still learning, and not too old to continue to challenge yourself.
- Connect with another person every day. Give a hug, receive a hug, look someone in the eye and say “hi”, compliment another person, make yourself available even when it’s inconvenient, most of all do it in person. Connecting with people grounds us in being human, social, and remembering that we are not alone.
- Find something that brings about a belly laugh. Not a controlled laugh, not a subtle laugh, aim for a genuine belly laugh that brings about a tear or two. Laughter is tremendously healthy for the mind, body, and spirit.
While these 3 suggestions offer another set of catchy things “to do,” what matters most only you can discover and ultimately only you will know.
So go discover what they are and then do them every day!