Each of us are unique individuals who express ourselves in very different ways. There is not a right way to be, but rather there are emotional signals and behaviors that we project to others which tend to communicate louder than the words we speak.

Individual therapy and couples counseling can benefit tremendously by understanding our own emotional style, our own signals, our patterns of behavior, and our individual wants and needs.

Said another way, "How you show up."

In addition, it's important to understand the different systems, relationships, and external influences that have shaped each of us along our personal roadmap of life.

Each of us has developed different relationships with our feelings and emotions and what we think and believe about those emotions.

Said another way, "How you feel about feelings?"

For males, of all ages, experiencing and expressing feelings and emotions can be an uncomfortable experience and often men foreclose on the range of emotions and leave themselves limited due to internal and external influences.

Commonly, men restrict emotions, project anger and/or aggression towards others, or adopt isolating routines. On other occasions, men also tend to mask their discomfort through a "stoic" demeanor or attempt to intellectualize the situation.

Eventually, physical signs and internal discomfort begin to surface and provide additional emotional clues.

Said another way, "The body doesn't lie..."

In a relationship both individuals bring an emotional heritage with them that infiltrates the relationship at some point. Most couples find themselves rehearsing the same perpetual disagreement over and over and falling into common attachment traps until emotions run high and the conversation and behavior eventually goes sideways.

By that point, both partners often find themselves flooded, exhausted, and overwhelmed by the threat of another argument as well as they feel unsafe sharing their feelings.

Escalated arguments, distancing from one-another, and shutting down are common signs that one or both partners are hurting emotionally.

Said another way, "Let's work for understanding..."

Examples of dysfunction in your life from restricting the expression and communication of feelings and emotions may include:

Anger, irritability, or aggressiveness towards others
Anxiety in common social situations
Obsessive thinking or unwillingness to compromise with others
Compulsive behavior that interferes with work, family, or social situations
Noticeable changes in mood, energy level, or appetite
Difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much
Unable to concentrate, feel restless, or on edge
Abnormal stress from work or ongoing commitments
Excessive use of alcohol or drugs to help cope
Engaging in unusual high-risk activities
Ongoing sadness or hopelessness
Feeling unusually flat for an extended period of time
Trouble feeling positive
Regular headaches, digestive issues, or unusual aches & pain
Isolating one self from family and friends

If you find yourself, or someone close to you is experiencing one or several of the examples above for an extended period of time then let's talk.

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